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    Links On Uncomfortable Realities

    A short one this week as I’m struggling to catch up on/skim 1400+ unread items in Feedly. “She Must Have Deserved It”: An Uncomfortable Reality About Abuse, And Reporting It | Ferrett Steinmetz – "And the good news that emerges from this particular bad response is that most people would never hit their partner. When told, “He hit her,” most people run this information through a I-am-the-world filter…" and "[If] you’re a victim of abuse, you need to be very careful as to who you date. Children of abusing parents are fifteen times – fifteen times! – as likely to wind up married to an abuser as so-called “normal” people,…

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    Tons of Videos!

    Actually, like 3 videos. But they’re good ones! Plus a few miscellaneous links. First, a video: My question: Why can’t he pull out a chair? Turns out, home skillet has a bad back. To offset that, a bit of cuteness: Maximumble – comic #594 – Ship. Mew.

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    So Out of My Comfort Zone

    One (of a thousand) things I’ve let slide in the last year of struggles is one of my most favoritest: dance. I haven’t been to belly dance class since at least last summer, haven’t learned any new moves or choreographies, and have barely practiced on my own. I told myself that “when everything was more under control”, that I’d go back. Well, that “everything” got under some sort of “control”, but then recovering from that was exhausting, and then healing stuff that’s been askew in my life forever is too all over the place. The thing is I know not to wait for life to get to back to “normal”…

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    I’m Going to Iceland!

    My passport has arrived. My Amazon cruise fell through due to concerns of sketchiness. Where was I going to go for my first trip out of the country? My colleague has picked a marathon… in Iceland. I need no such excuse–I’m just going to Iceland because it’s Iceland. End of August, five nights, right before DragonCon. Lagoon and coastal tours are already planned, and restaurants are being picked. I can’t even read the street names on the maps of Reykjavik. This is going to be awesome!