Last year, Greg and I expanded the boundaries of our relationship pretty drastically. It went really badly, but has resulted in an immense amount of growth for me: I’ve never been so independent within this relationship, so free to say “no” and feel my feelings without justifying or suppressing them.
And here you all probably thought I was kick-ass assertive 24/7.
Continue reading Choosing the Unconventional Path
That’s, um, fon.
I’m currently taking an evening off from former-house cleaning to sit and chill with my busted shoulder. An old, old injury reared its head when we moved, and my left arm can’t raise more than about 20 degrees from straight down without quite a bit of pain. Lifting is a no-go. I’m very lucky that my right shoulder (also generally wonky) didn’t give way, too.
This week’s been chock full of coding, moving, fun food, and a bit of escapism, and my reading probably reflects that:
Continue reading Weekly Linkage: Friday Fon
Me: Do you know if it’s possible for my husband to get his name changed here [at the Social Security Administration] like I’m getting mine changed.
Officer: He’s changing his name?
Me: Yes, he’s changing his name. We’ve heard he might need to go through the county clerk–do you think it can just be handled here? We have the marriage certificate.
Officer: Wait. What–what’s he changing it to?
Me: *eye roll* The same as mine. Hyphenated.
Officer: He’s… What? Wow.
Greg: Yes, I’m changing my name.
Officer: *incredulous laugh* Well, I just don’t know… You’ll probably have to go through the courts–look, I don’t know, just go ask back there and see!
Continue reading Changing Greg’s Last Name: Easy-Peasy
Within the last week, a few incredible things happened with regards to the wedding:
- My stress level dropped by about 50%.
- I got my wedding dress.
- RSVPs are coming in.
- We have a marriage license!
- Wedding planning is fun again!
Actually, RSVPs starting coming in last week and are trickling off this week, but we now have People Attending Our Wedding. Which makes this stuff, like, official.
So does the marriage license, which was pleasantly easy to get.
Greg and I took a couple of hours and worked straight through our Checklist o’ Doom (thank you, Knot), making sure we knew where we stood on everything, clearing out irrelevant tasks, and parceling out actionable items between us.
I haven’t slept that well in months, fer skerious.
My wedding dress is another, funnier story. Continue reading Finally, Some Wedding Relaxation
This week’s internet cruising:
- No Moods, Ads or Cutesy Fucking Icons (Re-reloaded) » Extraordinary Claims – Dust off your scientific hats for this one. Watts does an interesting analysis of the responses to a paper showing statistically significant evidence of precognition. Other folks apparently jumped all over the precog article with some borderline dishonest critiques, which Watts chews on.
- The “…the fuck…” exercise. « intangible.ca – Hear, hear. "Think of the last time you had to write an About Us page. Or a FAQ. Or craft an elevator pitch.
The big challenge is coming up with a clear, engaging, and succinct description of your project."
- Change in passport language is boon to gay rights activists – "'There are relationships that are immediately implied by mother and father that aren't implied by Parent 1 and Parent 2,' he said. 'It's not just a change to more bureaucratic language, it's a redefinition of the relationship.'"
And how is this a bad thing?
- Saturday Morning Breakfast Cereal – This is totally what my robots are going to do.
- How propaganda poisons the mind – and our discourse – Glenn Greenwald – Salon.com – The Guardian, The Atlantic, and The Wall Street Journal all published nasty falsehoods concerning Wikileaks, but could only lower themselves to make half-assed apologies on the matter.
- Three Word Phrase, by Ryan Pequin – I love Monopoly for just this reason.