Guilt by association?–A direct reply too long for a comment.

The former suitemate: “People Hate Me!

Minds draw connections. When two people stand together on one side of an issue, as evidenced by publicly posted commentary, rhetoric, and poetry, is it farfetched for people to draw connections? Is it completely absurd for such hostility to be seen and to not be linked with the issue at hand?

Whether or not the roommate and suitemate were involved in the vandalism (which it would seem they were not, and this has been known this since Sunday), they were [seemingly] involved in the alienation of Mae. That evidence, which I am aware of but was not directly involved with, is for Mae to present and handle.

My feelings toward people that would attempt to drive a studious roommate out of her room, when the living arrangement was apparently made under the agreement that there would be much studying? Toward people that would not listen to reason on the issue of the strength of a deck whose design had been weight-bearing tested by an architect, and turned this into a reason for continuous conflict? Toward someone that would play music out loud at their roommate’s bedtime, breaking a basic common-decency roommate rule? Towards someone that would make excuses for unstable behavior when there seems to be a real problem [of some sort] to be addressed there?

Tell me I have my facts wrong. Tell me these things didn’t happen, that the insults were not posted, that the living arrangements were not made for the similarities in lifestyle, that excuses were not made for unstable behavior, that someone did not attempt to kick the supports out from under the deck, and I will happily eat crow and drop a few dollars in someone‘s medical fund to help the situation stabilize, if that’s what it takes. I’ll even be as pleasant/civil as I ever was.

I’m done going out of my way to accommodate someone’s desire to inspire fear, however. It would be nice to have some verification that Tookie (and whoever else may be associated with the revenge and vandalism) is done, that they have no intention to continue the violent acts (and I believe the attempts to remove the supports constitutes violence), but should Mae and I have to seek this information out from someone who is supposedly attempting to be a fount of info regarding the incident? Who was in the wrong for the vandalism, again? We all have e-mail addresses, and I have three classes four days a week with Tookie.

At this point, the whole lot of you, including Tookie’s pyromaniac self, can go find a hobby. If that hobby should include further retaliation, further insulting posts, further anything hostile, let it be known that I advise the lot of you to find a nearby knob on which to slob. I’m done with this.

Barring major, life-altering incidents, further correspondence on this can be conducted via e-mail or in person. I even promise not to bite too hard on being called “retarded”.


  • Anonymous

    I’m just a bystander, I have nothing at all to do with any of this, other than that I happen to be an acquaintance of “the suitemate” as you call her. I don’t know the full details of the situation, but that deck really was not that great. Perhaps it could stay up in the way it was, but it wouldn’t have been that hard to reinforce the supports or make them a little more immobile, just to increase the safety factor. I think any structural engineer would agree with me. Designing something that relies totally on static friction to remain stable just doesn’t make sense.

    I’m not trying to come down on one side or another. I don’t know a quarter of the details of the situation, nor do I know most of the people involved beyond being able to pick out their faces. I just think this needs to be said.

    It doesn’t matter who I am, you can figure it out if you want to.

  • Adam

    “The suitemate” claims in her post to have remained neutral during this entire thing and tried to give advice to them when things were going south. How can you legitametly give advice and remain neutral when you are making fun of one of them behind their back?