- Dynamic Fitness: Decisions that Aren’t —
Facing up to what’s not being done in my life (or in others’) is something that’s become a *huge* issue for me in the last year. I love Andrew’s writing on this. Tagged as: [living]
- Dynamic Fitness: Everyone’s a Little Bit– —
Andrew holds a good discussion on anti-fat sentiment, particularly as pertains to Joy Nash’s "Fat Rant" and the Dove marketing campaign. Tagged as: [weight-issues society]
- Spoiled Rotten: How to Make Your Fruits and Vegetables Last —
"Americans throw out 25 percent of the produce they buy because it’s gone bad. How to stop the waste? Know when to shop, learn which fruits and veggies don’t get along and which ones to keep out of the fridge." Tagged as: [food fruit]
- Diversity training doesn’t work. Here’s why. | BlogHer —
I think she has a great point here: we definitely need to take a look at what this "diversity training" is resulting in. I agree with her point that people are better able to hide their racism because of it. Tagged as: [racism]
It’s become a big thing in to be willing to admit when you don’t know something. It’s a prideful shelving of arrogance and blustering to just stop and say, “I don’t know.” No bullshit. I like that.
But I’m growing weary of the first response to a serious question being “I don’t know.” In the middle of a serious, truth-seeking conversation about life, people, and what makes things (or people) tick, nothing stops me and my curiosity more joltingly than someone answering quickly, without thought, “I don’t know.” … and then saying nothing more.
I’ve become guilty of doing it. Usually, I’m buying time while I come up with a better answer, a more thought-out one. Rarely, I’m brushing people off.
There are better ways to do both of those, more considerate ways. A simple, contemplative “hmm” and a shift in body language takes care of the first. Telling people I don’t have the time or inclination to get into details takes care of the second.
But what’s the best way to react to that from other people? It strikes me as one of those responses that suggests that the person on the other end isn’t really interested in the conversation. Either that, or they aren’t interested in the introspection the question may require.
Either way, I can’t really man-handle people into interest or introspection (although the image that brings to mind makes me giggle). Maybe I should pull out the dweeby assertiveness training lines my father taught me. “Hmm. You seem not to be interested in this line of conversation. Is there something else you’d rather talk about?” (Or, being even more assertive, replace the question with, “Let me know when there’s something you’d like to talk to me about that has some depth.”) That’s a line that works well in all sorts of situations, like when someone is working on their computer while trying to hold down a conversation with you. If they aren’t interested enough to give you some attention, is the conversation really worthwhile? (Barring — for me, at least — small things like, “Sweetie, should I get 2% or skim milk from the store?”)
WO’s complaint about assertive responses was always that it made the assertive person come across as an asshole. Only in my most scared moments has that ever been much of a deterrent for me. Not that I haven’t had plenty of those, mind you. Too damned many.
Regardless, maybe it all comes down to a control issue. I don’t like someone else being able to control the bounds of what my curiosity can help me find out… even when that does in fact involve someone else.
Oi. Didn’t I go to counselling for this already? I’m pretty sure I did.
From krustukles: God Hates the World. Krustukles’ comments are worth skimming, and I’m stealing another link from one of them. Welcome Home God Warrior. Ignore the anti-fat (and anti-Christian!) comments on that page, as they aren’t really relevant, entertaining, or useful, but the video there is a bit shocking. I thought folks in my family knew how to rampage… shit. This woman could give them all a run for their money. (Make sure to watch to the end and catch the editorial comments.)
“I always have to be the warrior! Why can’t you be the warrior?!”
- Roots, an American family saga, celebrates its 30th anniversary | BlogHer —
On Roots. I had no idea that there was so much controversy surrounding Roots. Of course, I also hadn’t realized that there were people running around saying slavery never happened. *lifts eyebrow disapprovingly* Tagged as: [television race]
- Racial demons resurface with nooses on Louisiana tree – Yahoo! News —
Holy fucking shit. I missed this piece of news when it happened, and while I’m not surprised that this shit is happened, it breaks my heart. Tagged as: [race racism]
- THE COUNTDOWN IS ON… —
I’ve never been much for competitive running, but I do like this man’s story-telling, and his story grabbed my heart. Tagged as: [running]
- Big Fat Deal » NPR, Black Women, And Sluts —
Hmm. I think the title says it all. Interesting commentary on a racist, sexist article. Tagged as: [race feminism weight-issues]
- Motivation Schmotivation —
A very nice article on not needing to wait for motivation to make things happen. Tagged as: [health living]
- The sponge in the microwave —
Boy, I’m glad I don’t use sponges… because I might have caught it on fire trying this technique. Tagged as: [humor]
- Baby Tries To Stay Awake —
This is so very, very cute. Tagged as: [humor]
Another random podcast!
The music featured is “The Marriage of Figaro” by Mozart (the aria from Act 1, Scene 6)
- The move
- New apartment
- Job hunt
- City bus: ghost ridin’ the whip
- Hobbies: knitting, crocheting, guitar
- AT&T / Cingular: ugh